If you Believe, it is so.

It is a fact that most of us who are in mental prison have a poor self-concept of ourselves. This poor self-concept has caused us making unwise choices. All those who do not feel positive about themselves will make unwise choices. The beginning of making a sense out of our lives is to see ourselves as useful human beings. If we are not able to comprehend our value as individuals, we will not be motivated to alter our lives for the better.

How do we change reality and transform our lives? Whether we are destined to be what we are or whether we are capable of transforming our lives is a million-dollar question. We don’t have the time of luxury to consider ourselves incapable of becoming what we are capable of. If we look around there are many who have made big shifts in their lives. We need not waste time thinking that we can’t transform our lives too. The first step in transforming ourselves is to believe that change is possible. There is no power holding us back.

We can discover a meaning in our lives. It is simple self-discovery. For example, many of my friends have given up alcohol and tobacco. Many have given up telling lies and manipulating situations simply because they don’t work in the long run. Many have switched over to a Spartan life realizing that the glitter does not last very long. The reason the movie “Lago Raho Munnabhai” has appealed to many including Politicians, is because of the Gandhism or Gandhigiri behind it. It is resurrecting the ideals of Mahatma Gandhi slowly forgotten by many in the midst of an avalanche of materialism.

Life is not going to turn our exactly the way we have planned. Life can be really a strange experience. Some experiences will take us to the mountain top and others will take us to the depths of despair. On the way, while living the life we are going to meet some people who are angels and others who are demons. Remember, that the span of life is short and so why not be happy right now, instead of postponing it to a future date?

The present moment is a tiny piece of the puzzle. All of us change for the better. If the experience we are having right now is not flexible, we may develop attitudes that limit our understanding and enjoyment of life. If we are intolerant, short-tempered and impulsive, we may cultivate very few friends. The meaning of life is based totally n our own perceptions. We cannot grow if we are stagnant. When we only react and not proact, our lives won’t change and will remain in the rut.

Our lives are like movies already planned out. Other people have convinced us that we are great, average, stupid, ugly, attractive, smart or dumb. To live a more meaningful life, we must break out of ranks and construct or map out our own path. For example, I have a neighbor who says, “I have refused my own promotion because I don’t want to be posted at a distant place.” So, he remains in the same rut. Another neighbor says, “I have taken voluntary retirement and I do not want to work now.” This man hardly lived for 3 years and passed away because of boredom and disillusionment.

Elizabeth Barett Browning said, “The secret of successful living consists in taking time to live. Life is an ART. To be successful you must know to discriminate between the real and imitation. What frightens me is that men are content with what is not life at all.” Modern times have made us superficial and incapable of appreciating the deeper and subtle values of life. The hasty, hectic, hurry of ours has left eh average man bewildered and out of breath.

Once a group of Boy Scouts hiking in the countryside found to their delight a stretch of unused rail-road track. Each scout tried his skill in walking on the rails. Most of them balanced for sometime but failed to continue. But two boys stood opposite each other on the rail, each extending a hand to the other. They balanced without faltering as they walked briskly along the tracks. The lesson is that when we extend a hand to another person, we shall walk more steadily along the road of life.
Winning is not receiving a trophy or standing on the victory stand and the Crowd applauding. Winning is a personal matter. It is you as an individual setting a goal and achieving it. That goal could e supporting a happy, healthy family or funding a homeless shelter or making other people literate. In fact, winning is reaching the destination you choose. In fact, there is no Profit in winning, if you lose your soul, the ability to love or lose the urge to improve a situation.


Discover Yourself..

What we need most in this life is for someone to tell us the truth. And truth is that very few situations are going to come into our lives that we don’t cause to happen. This is the most important concept of life, which many don’t understand.

Every day becomes a puzzle if we are going to wait for a certain person to call, wait for that overdue promotion, wait for the ripe time to write the book, waiting to lose weight or for circumstances to get better. It is never going to happen and it will remain a mere dream.

For example, if you want to be with someone at this moment, do you wait or take some action? If you want more money right now, are you going to wait or take some action? Well, the action is the key. We get what we want when we believe that taking action is what make things, happen. We may intend many things but without action, they remain as intentions.

Do we wait for fate or God to make things happen or we make our own dreams to become true? Success, money, excitement, adventure, and achievement are not going to come without action. Our own action will bring the rewards we hoped to receive. It takes persistence and diligence to continue taking action in life and not give it up at any stage. If one can hang around a while longer, there is usually light around to corner and our degree of diligence actually makes us who we are.

If we push on, no matter how bad life may seem, something will happen magically. There is no mysticism, magic or illogical occurrence in life. It is always cause and effect.

It is utterly easy to live an average life. Life is a really demanding experience. If life is not demanding, the chances are that we may not be living a full life.

For example, there was a person I know with a literary bend of mind, who wanted to write a book. He was talking about it, wrote a few pages but seemed to be waiting for the right inspiration. He was waiting for the muse to come over and assist him but muse never came and he never wrote a book. As time passed, it became more and more difficult to write words, make chapters and complete a book.

All of us, have dreams that did not come true, because we wanted for the right time, the perfect moment, the divine inspiration, the perfect words to say, or the unattainable target we set for ourselves. Then it becomes too late to pursue the goals, because either they were never set or were set late for implementation.

There is no perfect moment in life. The time is now. Those we wait in life to make them happy are going to be disappointed. We never asked God to bring us to this planet; it just happened. We had no choice of the family where we were to be born. We had no choice of parents who could shape us the way we wanted.

There were many negatives, which have put us down. It was up to us to assume an active role and start discovering ourselves.

No matter where we are born, the person that we become, will be determined by us alone, overcoming all shortcomings and limitations. We don’t have to accept that the life we are living now, as the only life possible. We had and have the power to shape our lives.

The possibilities within us are absolutely endless and limitless. We don’t exploit them to see the true miracles that we really are. We let circumstances and emotions to control us. Remember that we go through the present life only once. We just happen to be living at this point of history but to make a life out of life is in our hands. Focus on the real self that is hidden within. Remember that circumstances and setbacks are not going to decide our fate.

We should decide it ourselves. Remember again that, we are creating this life moment to moment. If we want to make some changes, do it now. It is up to us. The saying is “if it is what it should be, it is up to me.”

We do not have the time or luxury to consider ourselves incapable of becoming the people we are capable of being.
Obviously, we can change, achieve and reach unimaginable heights. We don’t have to waste time thinking that we can’t transform our lives. We must move on and not stand stuck where were. there is no mysterious power holding us back. Only we are holding ourselves to stand where we are now. It is always a journey of self-discovery. So go ahead and discover yourself!

Life is beautifully Complex

Albert Einstein said once: There are only two ways to live i.e. as if everything is a miracle or as if nothing works. Often when life shatters us and sends us tumbling in terror towards the unknown, we seek comforting words to reduce our pain. When his child suddenly died, Einstein wrote to friends: “When the expected course of everyday life is interrupted, we realize that we are like shipwrecked people, trying to keep their balance on a wooden plank in the open sea, having forgotten where they came from and not known whither they are drifting?”

When I was in school, I distinctly remember a person who did odd jobs including cooking, carrying water, washing buffaloes etc. With great difficulty he educated his two sons who initially needed some monetary help but later went on their own steam, getting scholarships, prizes, and incentives at the school, college, and university. They did their engineering, went abroad and invited the parents to join them. They said: “Son, we have done our duty. We are happy to see that our children are climbing the career ladder. May God help you to progress further”. When I last saw them, they had the photographs of their late parents in the prayer room, worshipping them, for their stupendous sacrifice.

Khalil Gibran, the Lebanese poet, philosopher, and writer wrote: “You pray in your distress and in your need. Would that you might pray also in the fullness of your joy and in your days of abundance? If we did, we might experience more of them”. Many of us celebrate festivals, perform rituals and remember the Lord of particular occasions. But if we remember the Lord, every day becomes a festival day.

Nature gives us the face we have when we are twenty. Life shapes the face we have, at thirty. But it is up to us to earn the face we have at fifty. As long as the face staring back from the mirror is authentic, we can call ourselves reliable and dependable. It is fascinating when we begin the excavation process, to discover how each of our different lives is buried on their distinctive shrouds.

Irene Mayer Selznick was the daughter of Hollywood’s MGM Boss Lous B Mayer. She happened to marry David O. Selznick, the reputed Producer of classics like Gone with the Wind, Rebecca, Dinner at eight and so on. But his gambling losses were 1 million dollars a year. He was addicted to Benzedrine. He had affairs with Hollywood u and coming beauties. After 15 years of marriage and remaining a celebrity, she quit at the age of 38, moved out of Hollywood and became a successful Broadway Producer in New York. Irene Mayer said: “I had three lives, one as the daughter of my father, another as the wife of my husband and third as a theater producer.

Well, all that you can do in this world is to do your best. You never know what you can accomplish until and unless you try. You can’t win a race unless you venture to run. Wishing and hoping don’t bring any results. You have to do it to succeed or fail. If it is a failure, it is good, because that is the stepping stone to success. Someone asked: “When will opportunity knock?” The reply came: “It will never knock because you are the opportunity. You yourself should knock on the door leading to your destiny”.

We are all meant to experience, interpret and unravel the mysteries of this gift called life. Luckily, most of us are born, able to perceive the world with all its gushing beauty and terror. Still all too often, we journey through our days in a dull trance, asleep to the magic of everything about us. Wild animals rely on their intuition to stay alive. Human beings have to hone and sharpen their intuition to thrive. Katharine Butler Hathaway wrote: “It is only by following your deepest instinct that you can lead a rich life. If you allow your fear of consequence prevent you from following your deepest instinct, then your life will never be safe and secure.
Army Generals, Police Chiefs, Surgeons, and Businessmen act on their instincts even when the situation is grave and critical. Planning is good in peacetime; instinct works during the crisis. Human lives are made or marred by our decision mainly coming through instinct. If you are in a building on fire and all doors and windows are locked, you will develop sufficient strength to break down the strongest door because of your intense desire to survive. Abraham Lincoln had the desire to free the slaves and he did it. Mahatma Gandhi had the intense desire to make India independent and he did it. Jamshedji Tata had an intense desire to build a steel empire and he did it. Intense desire can play miracles.

– TGL Iyer