Discover Yourself..

What we need most in this life is for someone to tell us the truth. And truth is that very few situations are going to come into our lives that we don’t cause to happen. This is the most important concept of life, which many don’t understand.

Every day becomes a puzzle if we are going to wait for a certain person to call, wait for that overdue promotion, wait for the ripe time to write the book, waiting to lose weight or for circumstances to get better. It is never going to happen and it will remain a mere dream.

For example, if you want to be with someone at this moment, do you wait or take some action? If you want more money right now, are you going to wait or take some action? Well, the action is the key. We get what we want when we believe that taking action is what make things, happen. We may intend many things but without action, they remain as intentions.

Do we wait for fate or God to make things happen or we make our own dreams to become true? Success, money, excitement, adventure, and achievement are not going to come without action. Our own action will bring the rewards we hoped to receive. It takes persistence and diligence to continue taking action in life and not give it up at any stage. If one can hang around a while longer, there is usually light around to corner and our degree of diligence actually makes us who we are.

If we push on, no matter how bad life may seem, something will happen magically. There is no mysticism, magic or illogical occurrence in life. It is always cause and effect.

It is utterly easy to live an average life. Life is a really demanding experience. If life is not demanding, the chances are that we may not be living a full life.

For example, there was a person I know with a literary bend of mind, who wanted to write a book. He was talking about it, wrote a few pages but seemed to be waiting for the right inspiration. He was waiting for the muse to come over and assist him but muse never came and he never wrote a book. As time passed, it became more and more difficult to write words, make chapters and complete a book.

All of us, have dreams that did not come true, because we wanted for the right time, the perfect moment, the divine inspiration, the perfect words to say, or the unattainable target we set for ourselves. Then it becomes too late to pursue the goals, because either they were never set or were set late for implementation.

There is no perfect moment in life. The time is now. Those we wait in life to make them happy are going to be disappointed. We never asked God to bring us to this planet; it just happened. We had no choice of the family where we were to be born. We had no choice of parents who could shape us the way we wanted.

There were many negatives, which have put us down. It was up to us to assume an active role and start discovering ourselves.

No matter where we are born, the person that we become, will be determined by us alone, overcoming all shortcomings and limitations. We don’t have to accept that the life we are living now, as the only life possible. We had and have the power to shape our lives.

The possibilities within us are absolutely endless and limitless. We don’t exploit them to see the true miracles that we really are. We let circumstances and emotions to control us. Remember that we go through the present life only once. We just happen to be living at this point of history but to make a life out of life is in our hands. Focus on the real self that is hidden within. Remember that circumstances and setbacks are not going to decide our fate.

We should decide it ourselves. Remember again that, we are creating this life moment to moment. If we want to make some changes, do it now. It is up to us. The saying is “if it is what it should be, it is up to me.”

We do not have the time or luxury to consider ourselves incapable of becoming the people we are capable of being.
Obviously, we can change, achieve and reach unimaginable heights. We don’t have to waste time thinking that we can’t transform our lives. We must move on and not stand stuck where were. there is no mysterious power holding us back. Only we are holding ourselves to stand where we are now. It is always a journey of self-discovery. So go ahead and discover yourself!

Unleash your Mental Lock-up

Most people who erect a mental prison have a poor concept about themselves. This poor self-concept forces them to make unwise choices. Those who do not feel positive about themselves will obviously make unwise choices. When we hold ourselves back by being unkind to ourselves, we lock ourselves in a sort of mental prison.

There was a person who was not good looking and he felt guilty all the time although he was not responsible for his looks. When he came to the stage of marriage, he thought that a good looking girl would cause problems for him when others would focus their attention on her. So he chose an ugly looking girl, who ultimately turned out to be a goldmine. Thie girl was loyal, attached, obedient and devoted to the family, which was a sheer stroke of luck. His unwise choice turned out to be the best choice.

The beginning of making some sense out of life is for us to see ourselves as unique and significant human beings without a duplicate. If we are not able to comprehend as valuable individuals, we will not be motivated to alter our lives for the better. For example, a person may not be educated but he may have robust common sense. A friend of mine once said, “I make most of my decisions on intuitions and common sense, using the experience I have as background. After all, all laws, rules, procedures and processes are based on pure common sense. For example, when we should pay attention to the growing child and mould him with integrity, character and self-discipline that would pay dividends when he grows up, it is one of the neglected child would keep the parents permanently engaged in solving problems created by him”. We should believe that the world is changing and we should also change to adapt ourselves to the circumstances. For example, if inflation is rising and our income is limited, we have to augment the income by doing something extra. There is o rule that we should remain as we are permanently and forever. When we start doing new things, we feel more confident and reap more satisfaction in our own estimation.

The best way to test oneself whether we are happy or not is to measure our satisfaction while leading our lives. If we are struggling all the time, if we are invaded by undesirable thoughts, if we are disappointed or disillusioned all the time, then we must take some positive steps to stabilise ourselves. In fact, we can overcome whatever is holding us back, by doing some soul searching, which will lead to self-discovery.

Wally Amos, the American writer writes, “When things are not to your liking, like them as they are. When we are dissatisfied, depressed and discontented, be sure that circumstances are not the cause but we are standing in our own way. We must be in harmony with whatever happens in our lives if we wish to advance. Everything that comes to us is a gift, a stepping stone to reach or ideal. If we don’t exploit those occasions and opportunities, then the weakness lies with us requiring rectification and modification.

Life is not a movie with characters acting the roles depicted in the script. It does not take very long to realise that no one can take up arms to fight our battles for us. It is while fighting our battles that we develop our true personalities, removing the mask and all the makeup, which are all artificial. It is the challenge, crisis and catastrophes that reveal our strength and weaknesses. Remember, that it is when we realise and believe that we really have power that we begin really to live. It is very critical that we understand that, if we do not change our behaviour as we grow up, we will become adults who are mean, narrow-minded, standoffish and depressed. We know also that if we don’t change, we basically remain the same person. In the bargain, instead of creating an exciting life of our own, we let life create us. Therefore, the great secret of living is to realise that we are in control.
Awareness makes us all stronger. The more we know and understand, the more aware we are. Awareness compels us to take steps to win the battle of life whenever it occurs. The saying is, “Losers let it happen. Winners make it happen”. Two critical capabilities we should cultivate are the ability to live with uncertainty and the ability to delay immediate gratification in favour of long-range goals. The greatest achievement in life is to plan and act and take the risk that will ultimately make us independent. When we have this knowledge about ourselves we are aware, awake and do what is right. The impossible is what nobody can do until somebody does it.

TGL Iyer